"We learned to disagree without it becoming a wound. That alone was worth it."
The starting point
Meera and Sameer had been together for nine years and stuck on the same argument loop for the last two. They came in tired, not angry.
What we worked on
- Named the recurring loop and what triggered it on each side.
- Built a shared 'pause word' for in-the-moment de-escalation.
- Practised structured weekly check-ins.
The outcome
Six months on, they still disagree — but the fights are 20-minute conversations, not week-long silences.